Gravely Disappointed

[muhsin]

A chilly dusty morning wind was blowing stunningly, leaves of trees rounded us were making a wonderful sound that was somehow mixed with a shouting of some Basket Ball players, playing in a shouting distance from where we were. Despite all these phenomenon of refreshments, we were aggressively complaining about the long time we spent on a queue just waiting for a single sign.
Does she come? A sweet, like from heaven voice voiced from the back, without even figuring out it’s source, I, like a flash, respond “yes” then spun, and discovered a blear-eyed lady.
Since from the aforesaid encounter, I felt sick- love sick, of that lady, whose name I later discovered as ASHLEY
Well-built, moderate in high with sensuous light skin Ashley is a very beautiful and well-mannered girl.
Luckily, we LAter happened to be in the same Department, doing also same course, but do you know why this short story?
I have, as a new-matured boy, tried as hard as I could to let her knows the situation I am in, but seems “I don’t care” and also “arrogant” about all that I have been doing.
Lastly, what do you people and writers (maybe of romantic novel) think? What’s your view? Continue? Giving up? Or how?
I’m waiting for your concern response[COLOR=Orange]

[RobinHood3000]

Depends--so far, it looks like the first thing you notice about Ashley is that she's beautiful. That's terrific, but the only things you mention about her personality is that she's well-mannered but also apathetic and arrogant. It's important to know the relative degrees of these three traits, plus anything more specific you can offer us.

Also, what do you mean by "new-matured"?

[muhsin]

hello!
It's really nice reply, and i thank you for that.
As to the question you mentioned so far, yes, a person can be well-mannered,while at other hand is arrogant. I don't know the kind of girls you have there,but, the ones we have here in northern Nigeria,there are lots of them like this.
And again, my meaning by "new-matured" is that: am quite young,as i'm just 20. you know, a male-boy,usually became mature when he reaches 18,then i'm only 18+2. Got it?
Waitting for another reply.
Cheers!

[RobinHood3000]

Indeed, they can be so--such is a frequent phenomenon, but not one limited to women, naturally.

20 does not seem quite so young from my perspective--I am only 17. Still, I'm willing to offer whatever perspective I have. How frankly have you talked to Ashley about your feelings?

[Petrarch's Love]

Hi Muhsin,

As Shakespeare said, "the course of true love never did run smooth." I'm a woman and I've also acheived the ripe old age of 24, so I can try and help with a girl's persepective. I can't tell from what you have written how much you have spoken with Ashley and what kind of things you talk about if you have. Do you just say hi in class or have you spent time being friends outside of class as well? If you haven't tried already, a good first step would be to ask her if she would like to do something kind of casual after class, like get a cup of coffee nearby, or a snack or something. Also, what exactly makes her seem "arrogant?" Has she actually said something directly to you or do you think she is arrogant because she just doesn't seem to notice you very much and seems distant? Guys sometimes think girls are being arrogant when they are just kind of shy, or just haven't noticed the guy for some reason (although sometimes they really are arrogant, it's hard to tell without knowing more). What is her personality like? What does she like to do?

[muhsin]

hello!
I absoltely thank you for your great care and concern.
As one learned man also said it: here’s all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid.
As from the aforesaid, you can understand which class you should put both Ashley and I.
Moreover, you mentioned number of questions.
1- Yes we use to spent time together- doing assignment, discussing and so on.
2- She don’t like to talk very frequently to other members of our class, as I can vividly recall, I heard even some ladies among us saying it.
3- Very well and reputable personality- well I don’t know or is because I love her.
4- I cannot actually say this exact, because we only used to meet at school for a short period of time. But I can only say she likes to chat with her friends-particularly some two of them.
Sincerely things have now start changing, as I (after writing this story) one day solved her one assignment, which at the end she scores handsomely.

[muhsin]

Hello RobinHood3000,
Thanks once again.
Well, having talked to Ashley frankly sincerely I have never tried it.
Do you know why? We are almost always together with other people, and whenever we are only two, we are doing something that cannot house love talks. E.g. doing assignment, group discussion etc.
But, do you know what happens now? Things have luckily started changing, because of one assignment I solved for her, which she scores handsomely at the end.
Lastly, what’s your view?
By the way, I think you only say your age is 17 to comfort me sincerely.

Cheers!

[Petrarch's Love]

Hi Muhsin--Well I'm glad if helping her out with her homework has gained you some favor. It's good if you are spending some time together in study. Maybe next time after you are studying or even while you are studying you could suggest a study break to have a little something to eat or drink. This would give you a good time when you could talk about things other than school and get to know each other better. She sounds like she's a little shy and reserved since she isn't very talkative with others in class. Keep in mind that getting to know someone you like romantically often is a lot like getting to know any other friend. Guys and girls both like people who take an interest in them personally and ask them about themselves and their interests. Just see if you can get a conversation going about what she is studying in school, if she has any hobbies, sports, music, movies etc. that she likes. Also anybody appreciates compliments. Say something nice about the way she looks that day, or something she said. Be specific. Mention a new dress she's wearing, or jewelry , or that you like her hairstyle, or tell her how funny a comment she made is, or how smart she sounded when she said something in class. Just pick something that you honestly admire about her. People only like compliments that are sincere.