special professor

[MissJaneEyre19]

i think i'm falling in love with my English professor. :brow:

has anyone else had an experience like this?

[Virgil]

I think this is somewhat common. It seems to happen to female students. Male students just lust. It's probably not a good thing to act on it, if you want my opinion. I will probably pass. Now I'm curious to other responses.

[Whifflingpin]

It is supposed to be a common enough phenomenon, although, for each person it must feel like a rare, even unique, experience.

Remember, you may not be in control of what you think or feel, but you are responsible for what you do.

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[Petrarch's Love]

Oh dear yes. There have been a couple of teachers/profs I've sighed over. There was an English teacher, and the Art Historian and...Ah, second year latin was heavenly! I wished only to wade through the Gallic wars straight to Catullus and Ovid, and my favorite declension was amor. :lol: But by all means do not act on such feelings. Believe me, this too shall pass and, especially if you are an undergrad, it would just mean lots of trouble for all involved (and no man worth having would encourage an undergraduate student anyway). Just enjoy the sufferings and yearnings of unrequited love, and read a little Petrarch ;)(the expert on unrequited love). In time the ardour will probably cool to a respectful admiration, which is in many ways much more pleasant (unless he's just hot, in which case have fun looking :brow: ).

[The Unnamable]

Go for it. It’ll end in tears - but most relationships do. It’ll be an unequal match - but most relationships are. Just don’t use it as a way to get better grades.

[RobinHood3000]

I will probably pass.
Good heavens, that's funny...I hope you mean "It." :lol:


Well, I'm not in college yet, so I'd have no firsthand experience of the phenomenon you describe (though it is nice to know that there is hope for intellectuals after all). From my perspective, though, I would probably treat it the same way as an elementary school teacher crush--nice to have, but perhaps not the best idea to act upon.

Your professor doesn't happen to be Indiana Jones, does he?

[Virgil]

Good heavens, that's funny...I hope you mean "It." :lol:


Oops. Typo. Or was it Freudian slip? :lol:

I meant to say: "It". Left the "t" out. Hmmm.

[papayahed]

ha I had a thing for my Material Balance professor. It's that whole "smart is sexy" thing. Turns out he ended up marrying a former student of his.

[The Unnamable]

ha I had a thing for my Material Balance professor.
I challenge anyone to write a decent sonnet which includes that line. :D


It's that whole "smart is sexy" thing.
What do you mean, 'thing'? It is. :nod: :D

“People who are not in love fail to understand how an intelligent man can suffer because of a very ordinary woman. This is like being surprised that anyone should catch cholera because of a creature so insignificant as a common virus”.

[Xamonas Chegwe]

Does anyone else find it odd that Pinter Fan hasn't posted in this thread? ;)

[rachel]

I certainly want to hear from this person on this thread. Hi xc,thankyou for that line.It broke my heart and I will treasure it forever.

Unnameable you wouldn't have by any chance fallen for an 'ordinary'woman who caused you buckets of grief, now would you? You seem to be speaking from experience. And the truth is unless some woman is more intelligent than the highest scorer of Mensa,ANY woman would be ordinary next to you.

My girlfriend Renee and about ten other girls were in love with this one professor at OUC but he was not a teacher of mine. She wept and moaned over him and I swear to God(sorry atheists, it slips out at times) that it HAD to be his mind because just from an artistic point of view he looked like a very skinny piece of sphagetti with a head that mushroomed into this wierd ten foot high afro(he was totally white). So I told her I was going to help her just get a chance to know this guy and see him for what he probably was(he also had a poor wife who was a prof too and was pretty).Well that didn't exactly work out because he started focusing on me. What a guy. I still laugh.
I gave up trying to help those sobbing girls, they saw what they saw.
And when I think that if that guy could do that just what does our unnameable do to girls. Those eyes!

[RobinHood3000]

I challenge anyone to write a decent sonnet which includes that line. :D
But what is "decent"? :p

[The Unnamable]

But what is "decent"? :p
As ever, I was being old-fashioned. I meant 'worthy' but if you can complete the line:

"There was an old man from Nantucket"

be my guest. :D

[The Unnamable]

Unnameable you wouldn't have by any chance fallen for an 'ordinary'woman who caused you buckets of grief, now would you?
Guilty as charged. Although, I wouldn’t say ‘fallen for’ so much as ‘ensnared by’. :D


You seem to be speaking from experience. And the truth is unless some woman is more intelligent than the highest scorer of Mensa,ANY woman would be ordinary next to you.
Are you still accepting Paypal?


And when I think that if that guy could do that just what does our unnameable do to girls.
Never you mind.


Those eyes!
Ssshhhh! Some on here can put two and two together, you know. I can hear Xamonas Goodfellow grinding up love-in-idleness in his pestle even now.

[Xamonas Chegwe]

There was an old man from Nantucket,
Found a dead frozen cod in a bucket,
Said he, "Oh by golly,
"A fishy shaped lolly!"
And proceeded, poor soul, then to suck it.

I will tackle the moderately more challenging, "ha I had a thing for my Material Balance professor." sonnet at a later date (and after considerably more alcohol than tonight's meagre ration.)

[adilyoussef]

i think i'm falling in love with my English professor. :brow:

has anyone else had an experience like this?

So sweet. I'm an English teacher; would it be me, I would be glad.

Nah, just kidding. Those things happen a lot and many of my colleagues warned me of them. Some of them passed through this kind of problem many times. Yes indeed we see it as a problem. Most teachers/profs preffer not to be involved in those things. We don't like to mix up personal life with professional one. But everything has an exeption.

What I'd ask you is are you sure that you are in love with him? It might be an infatuation that would soon pass and change completely your life. "Love" is a word formed by four letters but needs time to be real. Love can be easily uttered but has many repercussion on the life those involved in it. I've read many reasonable advice given by our dear fellows here that are worth following. I won't like you to suffer from his indifference but hope that it might turn soon to admiration. Try your luck but be brave. And good luck to you with my colleague. ;)

[RobinHood3000]

Giving it a shot (also giving Xamonas a shot--ya like Jack Daniels?)...hope you like Shakespearean. Forgive the kitschiness, but poetry isn't my specialty.

Ha, I had a thing for my Material Balance professor.
Her eyes glittering like Erlen-Meyer flasks
Seeing her, I could not settle for anyone lesser...
I reveled in each interactive laboratory task

Alas, I soon learned that my love unrequited
Would have me lay still, alone, without friend,
I constantly feared that my love would be slighted
Amid dreams that she, I could always defend.

Shining armor grows dull in the seas of the mind
And I realized my folly when arrived in the class
A man with whom she would one day ties bind
And after that, boy, did I feel like a...bass.

The moral is clear, and this lesson I sing
Avoid those professors who are wearing a ring.

[SleepyWitch]

Oh dear yes. There have been a couple of teachers/profs I've sighed over. There was an English teacher, and the Art Historian and...Ah, second year latin was heavenly! I wished only to wade through the Gallic wars straight to Catullus and Ovid, and my favorite declension was amor. :lol: But by all means do not act on such feelings. Believe me, this too shall pass and, especially if you are an undergrad, it would just mean lots of trouble for all involved (and no man worth having would encourage an undergraduate student anyway). Just enjoy the sufferings and yearnings of unrequited love, and read a little Petrarch ;)(the expert on unrequited love). In time the ardour will probably cool to a respectful admiration, which is in many ways much more pleasant (unless he's just hot, in which case have fun looking :brow: ).

i totally agree with Petrarch's Love..
I've had a crush on my professor for ..what? 5 years on an off.. it definitely didn't pass, i still fall in 'love' with him all over again whenever i see him, even though I've got myself a boyfriend meanwhile!!! (oops how embarrassing to talk about things like that online..well never mind), BUT that doesn't mean you have to act on it... you're not going to die or suffer terribly just because you don't act on it... the feelings you have for him won't become any less real by your not acting on them ... on the contrary, they will be even more pure in a courtly-romance sense :) :) :)
also, 'love' is very relative... no offence, i'm not saying that you're not 'in love', but would you really wanna end up having to do that guy's laundry or being his sidekick (as in: unequal match) for the rest of your life or, even worse, having an affair?

[Xamonas Chegwe]

Nice sonnet Robin. How does a bass feel exactly? - I assume you meant the fish and not the beer.

I'll pass on writing mine now - Keeping the Nantucket limerick clean has exhausted my creative juices for the time being anyway - but thanks for the Jack - it hit the spot. ;)

[Virgil]

So We don't like to mix up personal life with professional one.
You know, Adil, that is a key point you make. The word "professional" is very dear to me. A professional stops being a professional when he disgraces himself at his job. It would be disgraceful if I had an affair with an underling, especially with an age disparity. This applies, or should if there is a sense of decency in this world, to all professionals. I think it applies to a teacher-student relationship. If a teacher is going to consider himself a professional, student relationships are off bounds. Period. I don't know what the protocol is, and I'm sure it varies across the world, but it may be justification for firing.

[Petrarch's Love]

It can indeed be grounds for dismissal at many American universities. That's why I said in my earlier post that a student-teacher relationship could mean trouble for all involved. Naturally a lot depends on circumstances. People tend to be less upset about a prof. dating a student who is not in his/her class, or working directly under him/her. There's also sort of an unwritten rule that it's almost never acceptable to have a relationship with an undergraduate student, but more acceptable at the graduate level when students are usually older and the age discrepency may not be as big an issue. Of course in reality student-teacher relationships happen, and Grad student-professor relationships aren't all that uncommon actually, though some are more...err...tasteful than others (and no, I don't know this from personal experience. My advisor is very happily wed and about three times my age :lol: ).

[The Unnamable]

For some reason I was reminded of a passage from Joseph Heller’s Something Happened. The daughter the narrator refers to is 16.

“My daughter doesn’t really like her friends very much (she shuffles them in and out of her good graces arbitrarily), and neither do I, with the exception of one classmate half a year older who is slim and pretty and secretive and who, I am just about convinced, is flirting with me, leading me on. (I encourage her.) She is not, my daughter tells me, a virgin anymore. She has a knowing, searching air about her that sets her apart from the others. She keeps her look on me when I am near, and I keep mine on hers. I’m not sure which one of us started it. I think it was me. (Perhaps we recognise something, the same thing, in each other, and she thinks that I am flirting with her, which may be true, but if I am, I am only kidding. I hope I’m only kidding.) Sixteen would be too young, even for me. (Or would it? Someone is going to be laying that provocative, pretty, hot-pantsed little girl soon, if someone isn’t doing it already, and why shouldn’t it be me, instead of some callow, arrogant guy of eighteen or twenty-one, who would not relish her as much as I would, regale and intoxicate her with the spell of flattery and small attentions I could weave, or savour the piquant degeneracy of it nearly as much as I would be certain to. Although I’m not sure I would want to tell anybody about this one.)”

[adilyoussef]

You know, Adil, that is a key point you make. The word "professional" is very dear to me. A professional stops being a professional when he disgraces himself at his job. It would be disgraceful if I had an affair with an underling, especially with an age disparity. This applies, or should if there is a sense of decency in this world, to all professionals. I think it applies to a teacher-student relationship. If a teacher is going to consider himself a professional, student relationships are off bounds. Period. I don't know what the protocol is, and I'm sure it varies across the world, but it may be justification for firing.

Well said. Theses are words of a professional.

[The Unnamable]

Giving it a shot (also giving Xamonas a shot--ya like Jack Daniels?)...hope you like Shakespearean. Forgive the kitschiness, but poetry isn't my specialty.

Ha, I had a thing for my Material Balance professor.
Her eyes glittering like Erlen-Meyer flasks
Seeing her, I could not settle for anyone lesser...
I reveled in each interactive laboratory task

Alas, I soon learned that my love unrequited
Would have me lay still, alone, without friend,
I constantly feared that my love would be slighted
Amid dreams that she, I could always defend.

Shining armor grows dull in the seas of the mind
And I realized my folly when arrived in the class
A man with whom she would one day ties bind
And after that, boy, did I feel like a...bass.

The moral is clear, and this lesson I sing
Avoid those professors who are wearing a ring.


Sorry, Robin – I missed this until now.

I’m impressed. The only option is humour, though. It’s like that ODE TO STEPHEN DOWLING BOTS, DEC'D, from Huckleberry Finn. It contains the verse:

“O no. Then list with tearful eye,
Whilst I his fate do tell.
His soul did from this cold world fly
By falling down a well.”

Some things just won’t work in poetry.


On the subject of infatuation, I remember a line from an Ogden Nash poem (I think ?), supposedly written to an agony aunt by a lovesick Ophelia. About Hamlet she complains:

“Just as I think he’s about to undress me with his eyes,
He leans upon the davenport and sighs.”

[Lily Adams]

Too many times. >.<

"Pleeeeease don't stand soooo close to meeeee"

[imthefoolonthehill]

I once asked my English proff out. She was only about 7 years older than me. Cute, though. Smart.

[Lily Adams]

I once asked my English proff out. She was only about 7 years older than me. Cute, though. Smart.

Did she say yes?

[Chava]

I don't get it... Everyone has attractive professors, but I have old men and women with beards.

[mono]

***The song 'Hot for Teacher' by Van Halen comes to mind.***

Okay, okay, I admit, I had a thing for my high school literature teacher, a gorgeous young woman who actually complimented one of my poems in front of the class! I almost submitted another poem I wrote for her at that moment, but shyness prevented me at the time, and, months later, a large rock on her finger prevented me furthermore.

[kilted exile]

Holy carp, Mono's back.

[*Classic*Charm*]

Shameful confession:

I could make you a list of teachers I've had crushes on:blush::blush::blush:

Only university professors though, no high school teachers :blush::blush:

[papayahed]

I thought my material balance teacher was kinda hot.

[kilted exile]

I had a crush on my Latin teacher Ms Adams, she looked liked a brunette Gillian Anderson & I continue to blame this for the fact that the only Latin I can remember is "In pictura est puella"

[*Classic*Charm*]

okay, maybe I'm weird, but my teachr crushes weren't cuz they were good looking...

My cell biology prof and my Biochemistry prof are pretty much the two coolest guys ever!

Oh Dr. Mullen and Dr. Dawson...:p

[Lily Adams]

okay, maybe I'm weird, but my teachr crushes weren't cuz they were good looking...

My cell biology prof and my Biochemistry prof are pretty much the two coolest guys ever!

Oh Dr. Mullen and Dr. Dawson...:p

Totally understandable. I do the same, really.

I am so hopeless.