machismo

[Darcy88]

Bleh, more gender threads. Why do you folks put so much of the stalk of your identity on gender? Isn't there anything more to you than what's between your legs? Dull, dull, dull. Hackneyed and dull.

From the great David Herbert Lawrence:


"Did you hate Clifford?' she said at last.

`Hate him, no! I've met too many like him to upset myself hating him. I know beforehand I don't care for his sort, and I let it go at that.'

`What is his sort?'

`Nay, you know better than I do. The sort of youngish gentleman a bit like a lady, and no balls.'

`What balls?'

`Balls! A man's balls!'

She pondered this.

`But is it a question of that?' she said, a little annoyed.

`You say a man's got no brain, when he's a fool: and no heart, when he's mean; and no stomach when he's a funker. And when he's got none of that spunky wild bit of a man in him, you say he's got no balls. When he's a sort of tame.'

She pondered this.

`And is Clifford tame?' she asked.

`Tame, and nasty with it: like most such fellows, when you come up against 'em.'"

[JuniperWoolf]

I am very proud of what lies between my legs.

Why? It grew by chance, you had nothing to do with it. Also your endocrine system is only very slightly different from that of a female, but try telling a layman that. They think bodies of males are composed of crystalized testosterone and females crystalized estrogen, nevermind that females also have testosterone and males also have estrogen in their systems, and the variation and impact of these hormones is relatively slight (which is determined by observing animals who have had their estrogen and testosterone inhibited).

If one derives their identity and sense of worth from their adherence to their specific gender stereotypes, ie. being a "REAL man" or being a "REAL woman," it simply indicates that they have very little to be proud of besides, and so they're reaching.

[Darcy88]

Why? It grew by chance, you had nothing to do with it. Also your endocrine system is only very slightly different from that of a female, but try telling a layman that. They think bodies of males are composed of crystalized testosterone and females crystalized estrogen, nevermind that females also have testosterone and males also have estrogen in their systems, and the variation and impact of these hormones is relatively slight (which is determined by observing animals who have had their estrogen and testosterone inhibited).

If one derives their identity and sense of worth from their adherence to their specific gender stereotypes, ie. being a "REAL man" or being a "REAL woman," it simply indicates that they have very little to be proud of besides, and so they're reaching.

I am very in touch with my masculine side and my feminine side. I cry a lot. I watch lame romantic comedies. I write mushy romantic fiction. I wear girl clothes, particularly pants, if they look like they can be worn on a man without looking too girly. I love fashion, shopping, though only at second hand stores.

But I'm also proud of being a man. I like that on the rare occasions I accompany a young woman out on the town late at night that she feels very safe with me. I embrace the role of protector. I train fighting all the time, I am really into honour. If someone insults the honour of my mother or a female family member or friend I have to be talked out of doing something stupid and rash about it. I may have a lot of estrogen in my body, but as a young man I also have a lot of testosterone. I want to embrace it as I know it will only decline with age. I want to look back on my youth when I am an old man and think "damn I lived and thought and wrote with passionate intensity."

That's really all I can say on it. I embrace the feminine and the masculine. I'm somewhat androgynous, but still hyper-masculine. I'm weird. Hahaha.

[JuniperWoolf]

I am very in touch with my masculine side and my feminine side.

But why do you bother to make such distinctions and put so much into them, it's so limiting. Why can't you just be Darcy?

[cacian]

But why do you bother to make such distinctions and put so much into them, it's so limiting. Why can't you just be Darcy?

Good point there Juniper there is nothing better then being you and that is yourself.

[Jack of Hearts]

I can’t speak for Darcy, but to El Sancho it means a dick and two balls are attached. Exceptions to this rule are made if there has been trauma - Jake Barnes, for example.

Well. That's an easy club to get into.







J

[Darcy88]

To hell with machismo. Its been my dream to either be a prize fighter or a soldier but there's no way I can pass the medicals. I will just be my "other" self - the intellectual nerd.