Jealousy

[iamnobody]

I've been called "heartless" because I don't get jealous, and I've heard some of these same people complain about their "crazy jealous" significant other. People are silly.

[Leland Gaunt]

I voted 6. I admit to a little jealousy, especially when watching Anthony Bourdain.

[Scheherazade]

The OP:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6lLs2dC9NaE

Do you consider yourself a jealous person? How and when do you show your jealous side? How do you deal with it (if you do)?

And how do you deal with other people's jealousy towards you?

The poll is anonymous so please vote freely.

[cacian]

I voted 5 because I am fifty fifty with this awkward feeling.
I am thrifty with my private life I do not share what is mine or with me so I tend to harbour feeling of jealousy if I suspected something was up.
Apart from that I am cool.

[Mutatis-Mutandis]

It looks to me that there're ten liars on this board.

[JuniperWoolf]

I've never had a problem with "relationship" jealousy, I've never kept that tight a grip on my boyfriends because I know how annoying it is.

I don't have it in me to be jealous of girls who are prettier than me either, I just admire their foxy-ness.

Nor have I ever been jealous of people who have more stuff than I do, because their stuff always seems useless and cumbersome.

However: I have been jealous in an academic sphere. I used to get sick to my stomach if someone out-debated me, or if someone easily reasoned through a problem or interpretation that I'd been having trouble with. It was okay when I was in high school, because there weren't that many kids to compete with and I could always beat everyone if I tried hard enough; once I got to university though, I realized that trying to be the best with forty thousand other intelligent people around who are also trying damn hard to be the best is just not going to happen and will eventually lead to a nervous breakdown, so I stopped caring about the competitive aspect and focused on learning for it's own sake. I don't even look at my grades anymore, I force myself not to so that I won't be tempted to compare myself with the other students.

As for how I deal with other people's jealousy towards me, it sucks. There are these two girls from town who hate me because I snagged my boyfriend (ugh, how lame). Not being liked by someone is uncomfortable, but there's really nothing that you can do about it.

Well 2010 Juniper, in two years you'll have come to terms with the fact that there are people smarter than you, and you will develop crushes on those people for their ability to outmatch you. I guess that means we've grown. Sort of.

[Darcy88]

I am jealous of people who have love and contentment. I am never content unless I'm pushing myself to physical and mental extremes. I can't find love because I am such an odd creature. I don't care about the things normal people care about. I am materialistic but not in the normal sense. I don't want the bourgeois material comfort so many other people seem happy with. I am not jealous of other young men my age who have big trucks and dirt bikes and all that. I live like a philosopher-poet and I would rather be as I am than live in that bourgeois comfort, but I would also like to own a large yacht, buy a future mate large diamonds and emeralds, own an estate with high walls and maybe even a castle. But I'm still not jealous of the rich people who have all these things. I live in my imagination and in nature and am content with what I have there.

But I am bitterly jealous of people who have contentment and love. I want those things. I want to be content with who I am without having to prove myself with art and adventure. And I want to find someone I can share this life with who does not think of me as a god or a freak. To women I am either looked upon as a god or a freak and both of these prevent happy romance.

[Buh4Bee]

I get extremely jealous in most relationships I have including friendships and family relationships. I realize my two younger sisters also have this flaw. Being older, I am less likely to get upset about events I previously might have.

It is sort of nutty to read old stuff- since I had my son, I feel a great deal more content and experience less jealousy. I still get jealous, but I am able to let it go far more easily now. Again, I think it is because I feel a certain level of contentment with my child. I am a happier person with my son and being a mother than before when I was just the wife.

[Darcy88]

It is sort of nutty to read old stuff- since I had my son, I feel a great deal more content and experience less jealousy. I still get jealous, but I am able to let it go far more easily now. Again, I think it is because I feel a certain level of contentment with my child. I am a happier person with my son and being a mother than before when I was just the wife.

That is beautiful and sweet. I am happy for you Buh4Bee. When I have a child I expect it will do the same thing. This is why I sometimes hate birth control like I'm aspiring to someday attain the papacy.

[papayahed]

I remember being jealous at one of my first job out of school. I was barely making ends meet and it seemed like everyone else was doing really well.

[Helga]

Well I just read my old response and I guess I feel the same in some ways, I don't have many friends so I get kinda jealous when my best friend has a bunch of people around her. The difference is though that I understand it better now and I have school now and she doesn't but wants to so I feel more 'in my place' now and I have something I enjoy.

This sounded like I am happy to have something more than she does and it's not that it's just that I have something now that I didn't two years ago, when I felt like she had everything and I was in a crappy relationship and a crappy job.

I think I wouldn't rate myself a six now, maybe 4. I do get a tiny bit jealous of people in happy relationships. It's something I want but don't want to seek out.

[tonywalt]

I'm jealous of the 10 people who don't really get jealous.

[TurquoiseSunset]

Are talking jealousy or envy here? Or both? ...with reagrds to the OP, that is...