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    Quote Originally Posted by tonywalt View Post
    This forum is lonely.
    Tumbleweeds abound but it's all down to us.
    Before sunlight can shine through a window, the blinds must be raised - American Proverb

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    A forum is what the participants make of it, so yes- it's all down to us.

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    But where are you all?
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    It occurred to me that I don't normally visualize myself as being lonely.

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    That´s fortunate, Yes/No. Maybe it means that you don´t depend so much on company to be happy or that you are happy with the company you have got.
    Today this forum was particularly empty, because of the holyday or because people are giving up.
    I looked up similar forums, some of them didn´t have much entries after 2015
    Anyway I just was going to take my somewhat pathetic question out when I saw that you had answered.
    Thanks and have a nice Sunday.
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    The question is good. I sometimes wonder where everyone is as well. Have a nice Sunday!

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    I too think it has gone strangely quiet, but not just on LitNet, everywhere.

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    I guess there is a kind of digital loneliness too. The digital peers kind of complete the companions of the "real world". But they are volatile. Who is going to subbstitute them when they have all wandered away?
    Thanks for being here, Y/N and Dreamwoven.
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    When loneliness is uncomfortable, I try to think of ways to reach out to others who have similar interests or have a need I can maybe meet in some way.

    But I did what I wanted to do as far as a family life. A felt need to perhaps take up with another is not as strong as it once was. I often wonder if I hadn't had those opportunities, would I still be satisfied with living alone and I frankly do not know. It is highly likely I would be fine. I was always a bit of a loner - sometimes by choice, sometimes by forces that felt outside of my control - and so I probably would have felt fine though I am grateful to be a mother and wouldn't trade that experience and memories of family life.

    Perhaps maybe there is time for being alone and time for being with others or in one more serious relationship in particular and maybe each of us can only know what that time is.

    I read a book called Solitude A Return to the Self by Anthony Storr when I was in college 25 plus years ago. It is a great book still for exploring in a discussion of these issues.

    I know it is good to speak to others through writing, like we are doing here. I recently hopped off of Facebook and Twitter because that was wearing me out to a degree. Sometimes I think certain media are more antithetical to the discussion of ideas than others. I haven't been active on forums before and decided to join a few, this being one and also a couple of writing forums. I like it that this forum combines both reading and writing communities. I am glad to have come across this thread. I'm still reading it but I wanted to say I think it is a good discussion.

    A couple of months ago I started a blog called "How to be Alone." I've gotten some positive response. I haven't tried too much confessional/essay blogging before so I've found this interesting. I think this is an important topic. Thanks for posting it here.

    My thoughts seem scattered in this post. Happy Monday. What is left.
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    I see you have changed your avatar, heartwing!
    I hope you´ll like it here.
    I had my Twitter moment too. I was very enthusiastic at first. But on Twitter real comunication is minimalistic, so, after a while, I closed the account.
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    I see you have changed your avatar, heartwing!
    I hope you´ll like it here. There are many loners around.
    What I like about this site is that we are a bunch of people and not just of readers and writers, although I found many people that share my reading tastes. But the differences are interesting too.They open new doors. And most people write a beautiful English!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Danik 2016 View Post
    I see you have changed your avatar, heartwing!
    I hope you´ll like it here. There are many loners around.
    What I like about this site is that we are a bunch of people and not just of readers and writers, although I found many people that share my reading tastes. But the differences are interesting too.They open new doors. And most people write a beautiful English!
    Thank you, it is good to be here. Loners unite! ha ha. Well, I guess some of us are, others maybe less so. This seems to be a good place to be. Thank you for the warm welcome and yes I thought this avatar was cool. It is an urban art painting on a brick wall. I also posted it because I wanted to make it evident I am a lady. For some reason some posters have gotten the idea I am Mr. Heartwing. It must be all that alpha energy. ha.
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    80% alfa if no more!
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    Just wondering why this site has 1055 hidden guests. The number of hidden guests is increasing enoumously.
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