Peace and forgiveness work in one direction only -- towards life.
The open heart leads eventually to the infinitely pure, strong, and healthy life which can accept all in friendship, peace, and truth --
There is not anyone in the world I would not forgive and start anew with, if they asked for my friendship. Such is the strength of one who has attained self-mastery - strength and healing.
When you hurt anyone, you hurt everyone. This is the infinite truth of this universe. And when you help anyone -- you help everyone -- the corollary. When you shut someone out of your life, and you say, "I will hear no apology. There can never be forgiveness for you," you are essentially saying, "I would not care if you didn't exist." And this essentially fractures the universe. The open heart is the one that grows higher and stronger, that eventually sees the infinite -- eventually will experience pure and infinite love. For when we close the heart it only grows cold; when we try to remake others into smaller, sadder images than they truly are. To say to someone, "You are weak, or "You make me sad," is the one harmful thing (and ridiculously stupid) we can ever say to anyone. Tell all they are strong, and they will become strong. Teach the strength that is wtihin them. All good comes of this. It is the open heart that grows strong, infinitely sound, kind, and one day, infinitely wise.
All good comes from saying to others, "You are strong," and all ill comes from saying to them, "You are weak."
Thus forever teach strength and share strength with all you meet. Never bow down to fear or inability to come to one's senses - to be calm, fearless in the face of anything.
Nature loves courage, and will forever lift you up if you make the decision to be fearless.
All good in the world comes from strength, from fearlessness, from peace, wisdom, health, and good sense - and all ill comes from fear, weakness. Those who have not ever stepped foot on the earth (the infinite, kind, loving, beautiful and bountiful earth, that restores all health, powers, beauty, love, strength, kindness, peace and wisdom, when one surrenders to Her) -- they never know the peace that is infinite, they never reach the place from which they will never again falter or fail -- at least, not for many lifetimes.
All heroes teach that all strength, wisdom, beauty is within all beings -- Emerson, all the others, teach all genius is within you; as long as you are human, you have it in you to become your true and powerful self.
It is not from avoidance that this occurs -
"All life is an experiment; the more we make, the better" -- Emerson,
"The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom," -- Blake,
But naturally - to preserve one's health, integrity, strength, mind heart and body -- all along the way; these are fairly ideal ideals. . to experience everything in the universe, without weakening oneself one whit -- to taste all, without losing one iota of one's pure and boundles health, strength, peace and natural courage.
Jaya.