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    Question Voyeurism in Sex

    Someone was saying in a different forum that they thought the internet has changed the way we have sex today.
    I totally agree. It has changed it in a sense that it made it accessible for everyone to watch at any time and any minute of day and night and without having to enter into it.
    Webcams is another change into sexual habits were internet users become sex actees in couples or singles where by watching and doing goes on.
    Sex clubs and there many of them in London where people can go and entertain sex whilst others watch.

    So I would like to say that voyeurism seems to be the norms today because of the internet and other facilities.
    I personally think that sex is solely and purely a physical act done between two consenting adults.
    I would however feel extremely uncomfortable if I knew someone was watching because it spooks me out.
    The other reason is that I could not tell/work what the voyeurs are thinking in their heads whilst seeing.

    The question is:
    How do you feel about voyeurism?

    Thank you for taking part.
    Last edited by cacian; 11-15-2012 at 03:41 AM.
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    Voyeurism kinky or perversed - that's our choice?

    This reminds be of the Sopranos episode when Paulie Walnuts looks at Vito (very large) and Bobby Baccalieri(fatter) and says "Oh look, the Weight Watchers plan" and pointing Vito then to Bobby says "Before, and Way Before".

    (If you dont' get it - ask someone else).

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    Quote Originally Posted by tonywalt View Post
    Voyeurism kinky or perversed - that's our choice?
    ''that's our choice?'' I am not sure I get this. How do you mean?
    This reminds be of the Sopranos episode when Paulie Walnuts looks at Vito (very large) and Bobby Baccalieri(fatter) and says "Oh look, the Weight Watchers plan" and pointing Vito then to Bobby says "Before, and Way Before".

    (If you dont' get it - ask someone else).
    You are right I do not get this. The only thing I might get from this is that it is different to look at someone on the grounds of what they look like and watch someone doing something.
    Very different.
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    This didn't start with the internet. People have always been into perversions, especially where you live in London (*wink*). Voyeurism is no different, it is an old tradition. The "Sex show" was only brought to home video by the internet, but people had been watching sexuality on display for thousands of years before that.

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    cacian- ''that's our choice?'' I am not sure I get this. How do you mean?

    "Now that voyeurism is on the up would you say the concept itself is kinky sexy or perversed?"

    It would seem from your OP that you are asking for our opinion upon voyeurism... but the choices you offer are rather limited:

    kinky

    sexy

    perversed (a merger of perverted and perverse?)
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    Or is it a verb? like, I perversed my night away doing voyeuristic things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stlukesguild View Post
    perversed (a merger of perverted and perverse?)
    Yup, in a way. Actually, perversed is an obsolete adjective meaning turned aside, especially as regards moral standards.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stlukesguild View Post
    cacian- ''that's our choice?'' I am not sure I get this. How do you mean?

    "Now that voyeurism is on the up would you say the concept itself is kinky sexy or perversed?"

    It would seem from your OP that you are asking for our opinion upon voyeurism... but the choices you offer are rather limited:

    kinky

    sexy

    perversed (a merger of perverted and perverse?)
    I get it thank you Stlukes. I have now changed it.

    Quote Originally Posted by JBI View Post
    Or is it a verb? like, I perversed my night away doing voyeuristic things.
    'Voyeurisitic things' sounds very arty for some reason.

    Quote Originally Posted by JBI View Post
    This didn't start with the internet. People have always been into perversions, especially where you live in London (*wink*). Voyeurism is no different, it is an old tradition. The "Sex show" was only brought to home video by the internet, but people had been watching sexuality on display for thousands of years before that.

    Thank you for this useful post JBI. It is incredible to see that some things never change.
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    I don't see why it would seem the least bit incredible or surprising or make you think. From the very start we have been programmed to enjoy looking at beautiful people of the opposite or the same sex... as things may be. This attraction includes an attraction to the naked body and sexuality. As JBI suggested the access to images of nudity and sexual acts available on the internet is nothing new... it merely employs the latest technologies. before this we had "pay-per-view" cable TV and videos, and "blue movies" and pin-ups and erotic paintings, prints, sculpture... to say nothing of the continued existence of brothels and prostitution.

    Is the passion for looking "kinky" or "perverted"? Perversion, by definition, is a concept describing those types of human behavior that deviate from that which is understood to be orthodox or normal. Some of the statistics I have found with just a little Googling:

    *The Porn Industry worldwide is nearing $100 Billion US in yearly revenues
    *The US revenues stand around $13 Billion
    *The largest porn revenues can be found in Asia: China, Japan, and South Korea account for $73 Billion of the total
    *Of the audience searching under the term "sex" on the internet (some 75,608,612 searches made as of the most recent statistics- 2006) the percentage of male to female searchers was 50/50
    * The most searched for word on the internet in South Africa, Ireland, Great Britain, Australia, Canada, Norway and several others is "porn"
    * The terms "xxx" and "sex" are the most commonly searched for words on the internet in countries such as Chile, Romania, Pakistan, Mexico, India, Egypt, Morocco, Iran, Croatia, etc...
    * It is estimated that as much as 25% of all internet searches involve sexual imagery/pornography
    * There are 4.2 million porn sites on the net
    * More than 70% of male internet users from 18 to 34 visit a pornographic site in a typical month
    * 40 Million Americans visit porn sites on a regular basis
    * 1 in 3 porn viewers are women... although they are far less likely to pay for porn

    Such statistics... even if inflated... suggest that the desire to look at sexual imagery is in no way a behavior that is deviant from the "norm".
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    Very interesting post Stluke and thank you for posting.
    I think in everything there is a silver lining. The computer fast access to porn and watchers of porn. It made me think that many have learned to enjoy watching more then doing.
    What it does to the mind is something else. I think it made me realise that more and more people young or old have picked up that watching is easy and so engage in it.
    Does voyeurism unleash other obscure mind games and does it teach sex couching or lazy sex, watching without doing or self sex mastibatuory sex for example.
    It is very easy to watch and not easy to get it done. We humans have the tendency to procrastinate over routine and what is accessibly easy.
    Voyeurism is another passive form sexual gratification that has no other element involved in it apart from the act of watching. It is not active.
    Is it good for you? I am not so sure.
    It is a habit and it can be addictive. To what extent does actually push the mind and what does it do it is something I have not have the knowledge enough to answer.
    I know I do not practice it and neither do I like it because I do not feel comfortable with it.
    Last edited by cacian; 11-16-2012 at 12:32 PM.
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    When did you first dis( )cover porn?

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    Quote Originally Posted by QuadrusPenseros View Post
    When did you first dis( )cover porn?
    LOL let see about four years ago. I have to admit my world got shaken and stirred even since.
    Last edited by cacian; 11-17-2012 at 04:17 AM.
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    Let's ask one of those cacian-like questions: What is Porn? How do you define it?
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    St. Lukes- I think you are deviating from the norm by actually posting on this thread.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stlukesguild View Post
    Let's ask one of those cacian-like questions: What is Porn? How do you define it?
    Porn is sex glamourised acted by actors who fake sexual acts for the pleasure of the viewer who is lured into fantaisies of another world.
    Porn is not real.
    it may never try
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    it is just that
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