have you ever been unfaithful?

**cacian** · 07-21-2012, 04:24 AM

and is there a difference between unfaithful and cheating?
Please bear in mind this thread is to purely engage in discussing what drives us to do what we do and hopefully shed light on this is very ''stigmatised'' subject.
I believe that the more a subject is aired and talked about the less difficult it becomes to understanding it.
All voting are sensitive and anonymous.

**Alexander III** · 07-21-2012, 08:33 AM

In my young and inexperienced opinion of the world, cheating is a symptom of a broken relationship, not the cause.

**Gilliatt Gurgle** · 07-21-2012, 08:49 AM

No, we have 18 years of wedded blitz behind us and still going strong.
Besides she makes more money and who else would have me? - my man breasts are sagging, my chin and jaw are losing definition.

I will admit to taking a gander at a nice rump or traveling the curves with my eyes though.

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**Jack of Hearts** · 07-21-2012, 05:22 PM

This reader has never done it but sees the potential in himself. Which is why we're careful with our promises and honest at all times.

J

**Darcy88** · 07-21-2012, 11:30 PM

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**Mutatis-Mutandis** · 07-21-2012, 11:51 PM

I was going to vote, but I don't feel some of the options have enough exclamation points to adequately describe my mindset on the matter.

**Alexander III** · 07-22-2012, 03:48 AM

Originally Posted by Mutatis-Mutandis

I was going to vote, but I don't feel some of the options have enough exclamation points to adequately describe my mindset on the matter.

**cacian** · 07-22-2012, 03:55 AM

Originally Posted by Mutatis-Mutandis

I was going to vote, but I don't feel some of the options have enough exclamation points to adequately describe my mindset on the matter.

Cool lol

**crusoe** · 07-22-2012, 04:21 AM

Since sex is IMHO totally overrated, it's not worth the trouble of hurting the one you're with.

**Revolte** · 07-22-2012, 04:38 AM

I never have, cheating isn't my thing. I've been cheated on so many times it hardly hurts at all now. But I don't see the point in it. My honor is very important to me and I don't wanna bother breaking that for a good lay.

I have been tempted, but only once. I could have done it too, hell I couldn't stand the girl I was with. But my moral code comes first.

The last girl I was with was such a sweetheart, took care of me and everything, she was just amazing. But one night I started feeling like there was a possibility that I might end up breaking her heart. So I broke up with her and explained to her that no matter how much I cared about and respected her, it wasn't worth risking hurting her.

Sometimes people cheat, I don't like it and I don't agree with it. But I understand it.

I would call cheating and being unfaithful the same thing, for ease of sanity. If I think of unfaithful as doing something you shouldn't have then sure I have been. And so has most everyone.

**Alexander III** · 07-22-2012, 10:13 AM

Originally Posted by crusoe

Since sex is IMHO totally overrated, it's not worth the trouble of hurting the one you're with.

In defense of Sex, you're probably not doing it right. Now at 19, when I think back to my technique, style and creativity in such regards when I was 15; well I have learnt so much that what I called sex at 15 now I would not call it that, for it seems so feeble in comparison, that to call it Sex would be as much of an Insult to Sex as comparing Twilight and the Aeneid would be an insult to Literature..

Also on the poll I voted both for "It is against all what I stand for" and for "Yea, things do happen right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?" because they are both true.

**tonywalt** · 07-22-2012, 11:48 AM

I had alot of sex at 15, unfortunately I did not get a partner until later.

**Bluehound** · 07-22-2012, 02:08 PM

Yes, I cheated on my last boyfriend with his best mate,
It's a terrible thing to do but me and the best mate have now been happily married for 12 years so I think it was meant to be

**OrphanPip** · 07-22-2012, 05:27 PM

I've never cheated. If I ever wanted to have sex with someone outside the relationship I'd just ask the bf beforehand (although, I'm pretty sure that wouldn't go over well with the current bf).

**Revolte** · 07-22-2012, 05:52 PM

Originally Posted by Bluehound

Yes, I cheated on my last boyfriend with his best mate,
It's a terrible thing to do but me and the best mate have now been happily married for 12 years so I think it was meant to be

Last time I got cheated on, that I know about anyway, the girl stayed with the guy, so they have been together over a year now. Which is why it doesn't bother me, well it didn't bother me then either, it's the fact rather then her telling me I had the new guy talking like a gangster to me and threatening me. THAT pissed me off.

As it turns out he is just another not so handsome, dramatic white trash moron who doesn't let her go out and hang with friends or any of that. I'll never understand that, but I guess if you're raised a certain way and it sticks, you can't help yourself. Regardless, it's hard to be mad if you get cheated on and the results were that good.

I think it's more honorable to just break up with the person though.