And to Cacian: You know you've failed romantically when the person you love tells you to leave them alone and then ceases communication. Those two things are like atom bombs and when combined they entirely incinerate the great alter you've erected in your own mind as a testament to your love for that person. You need both. If both are not said/present there is room for hope. But if you get both you know its over. Its over for good. That person, even if they love you still, does not want to see you and this fact puts between you and them, regardless of actual geographical distance, a psychological barrier which seems and in fact IS far vaster than continents. Your love becomes ash. You have become mere ash to that person. You've become a ghost to them. When this happens I take ridiculously extreme measures to avoid the other person. Its a tough way to live I tell you. My friends don't care at all about bumping into former romantic partners but for me its like getting punched in the gut by a champion heavyweight boxer. Actually its worse than that. Its like being set on fire while 50 chickens peck at you. I fall through the floor of the earth and find myself in some dark abyss which has neither up nor down, neither left nor right. It puts me in a kind of hell.
Last edited by Darcy88; 07-11-2012 at 07:47 PM.
So if the romancer gives it a whirl and gets turned down, then gives up and heads on the next one, it would be a failed effort due to lack of the relentlessness that is associated with romance. If this was continued throughout the persons future then he or she would be a failed romantic.
I tend to associate romance with passion. And a short lived passion is hardly worth considering passion at all.
Of course that's just my way of thinking and I wouldn't be surprised if the masses disagreed.
I think romance has to involve friendship and understanding. Interest in the other person's life and maximizing on that. I love receiving original poetry from my friend. Without a doubt it is one of the most touching romantic things he can do because it speaks to me in so many ways. And no matter what happens between us, it will always be a treasured keepsake.
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