I know a lot more about the enneagram
remember before when emily posted something about the enneagram?
http://www.online-literature.com/for...ad.php?t=16626
well... I did a hell of a lot of research and can explain it a lot better than before (especially the feeling triad, 2, 3 and 4).
The Feeling Triad
The feeling triad is a triad that wants attention, and the way they feel they can receive this attention is by being someone they're really not. As they grew up they might've felt more noticed for what they did and not who they were. This gave them the feeling that if they were who they were... nobody would look at them. This forces them to always be like... someone else.
They kind of "try to be better than themselves". They don't want to be just them, because they feel if that is all they are... nobody would bother looking at them. They have be more than just their ordinary selves (they have to feel significant and great). This is also because they want to like themselves, they will only like themselves if they're big and impressive.
Each takes on a different path.
The two tries to feel better... and "more" by helping others... it makes them feel special and significant.
The three tries to feel "more" by being good at something and by impressing others with their qualities.
The four tries to feel "more" by trying to feel special and unique ("Hey look, I'm not just your ordinary person").
When they feel that they're not being liked and that they're not getting attention... well... then they feel defective. This forces them to try harder to be "more" now that they feel like "more" only when other people are looking at them. They need other people looking at them to feel significant. So they try harder and harder to receive attention.
At this level Twos try to help a lot... helping others with whatever they want to receive attention... being completely altruistic as if to say "hey look at me, I'm giving you attention"
At this level the Three becomes competitive... trying to practice whatever they're good at until they're completely perfect at whatever they do so they can impress people. As if to say "Hey look at how amazing I am at this"
At this level the Four tries to be really unique than others, tries to feel special and different. As if to say "Hey look at how different and original I am, nobody else is like me"
At unhealthier levels they begin to live a lie... they convince themselves that they are what they show others. They also feel frustrated by others because they've tried so hard to receive attention that now nobody's looking... so they get angry at others ("why won't you guys look at me?!"). They all eventually become very narcissistic.
The two eventually gives out so much... that they feel that they are... givers... and they deserve rewards. It's at this stage when they feel they should begin to collect albeit still helping others to receive they're attention.
The three eventually practices so much that the only thing they care about at this stage is winning... and winning the prestige that they deserve. Whatever they do, they cannot lose. They will keep trying to win and win... and if that doesn't work... well then... they unfocus themselves from attention and begin focusing only on... the game.
The four eventually tries so hard at being different... that they begin to feel different. They convince themselves that they're different from everyone else, and that they are unspecial... they keep trying to feel special by being overdramatic and overartistic. Eventually though, they feel that they have suffered so much that they might feel that they deserve to get.
I guess that's the feeling triad for you at the unhealthier stages... even though on healthier stages the feeling triad realizes that self-worth doesn't come from an external source. They stop trying so hard to receive attention.
The two stops trying to receive attention but keeps on helping others because this is what they're good at and this is what still makes them feel special. True humility at this point and true altruism. They no longer feel that they have to be all altruistic to receive attention and realize they have a right to be a bit... egoistic. They become more self-nurturing then and truly unleash the quality that is unconditional love.
The three stops trying so hard to impress others. Realizes that self-worth doesn't come from others and keep on doing whatever it is they're good at... because it remains making them feel special. Nevertheless... they stop being so competitive. At this stage they can become role models valuing their own self for who they are. They truly unleash the quality that is... Self-value.
The fours stop trying so hard to be special and significant. Dropping all their overdramatic behaviour. They remain being artistic because this is what they're good at and they feel special for it. They can be truly creative and truly artistic... and they then truly reveal the quality of being equanimic.
well... g2g. lol that was the feeling triad for you