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Why you値l find my old clothes in a charity shop over my dead body.

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I was in some charity shops today those shops where people donate their old or unused stuff to be sold by the charity for a small profit as my wife and I like browsing in them. I bought three books for a quid actually they came to 50p as it was an 摘verything Half Price day.

I bought Hammond Innes The Strange Land mainly because it is a 1966 copy, and I find the cover alluring. I got a Len Deighton Hope which is the second in his Faith, Hope and Charity trilogy. They didn稚 have the first one Faith - which would have been better. Frustratingly they also had the second two of another trilogy of his. The third book I bought was Kahlil Gilbran痴 The Prophet mainly because I had seen references to it on this forum.

They do serve a good purpose these shops. They raise a good amount of money and provide lots of people with the opportunity to gain some work experience. I know a chap who works in one who used to live in the Salvation Army Hostel. He痴 now got his own place and works there. He also volunteers with the St. John痴 ambulance. It痴 nice to see people moving on from difficult circumstances.

It also means you can get kitted out if you need to pretty cheaply, though I wouldn稚 buy my pants from there. The thing is, you just know that the clothes will probably be from a clearance of some poor old bloke痴 wardrobe when he died. Most of them look like they are. I don稚 usually find any clothes in them, though I have bought items from them in the past. I知 not squeamish in that way, but they tend to be old guy痴 type stuff, (or should I say older guy痴 stuff?). But I was wondering why there aren稚 more men痴 clothes in a younger type range, and perhaps it痴 because blokes wear stuff differently to women. (There are always loads of ladies clothes).

It might be just me, but I tend to wear stuff into the ground. If I buy something, I wear it come rain or shine until it is unsuitable for human wearing again, and my wife surreptitiously throws it out. Is this other bloke痴 experiences? We don稚 tend to talk about clothes and so I have no idea what other blokes do either. What leads me to think that it might be true of other blokes is that there aren稚 usually any good selections of clothes in charity shops for men.

My shirts wear out along with my shoes, my jumpers shrink or stretch, my trousers usually go on the seat due to my cycling, and my t-shirts tend to disintegrate and fade. This all goes to show that it is only when I知 dead that you値l be able to buy my clothes in the charity shop they値l not be worn out like I finally will be.

Updated 04-30-2011 at 04:33 PM by Paulclem

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  1. Bluebiird's Avatar
    There's a pretty simple answer to that. Women tend to have more clothes than men. We have a habit of dressing up more, changing styles, being given clothing by relatives as gifts and thinking "this person does not know me at all". Also charity shops do have some standards when it comes to clothing. I saw a program a couple of years ago on the subject. You wouldn't believe some of the things people "donate" because they can't be bothered to throw things out. So, since guys have a habit of wearing their clothes out more perhaps most male clothing donations are unacceptable for sale.
  2. qimissung's Avatar
    It's cute that you use the word "bloke".

    But bluebiird is right. I think men just wear their stuff until it's worn out. I know my sons do, anyway.
  3. Paulclem's Avatar
    Thanks Bluebird and Qimi - I thought so.

    Until I got together with my wife, I wasn't really aware that people had summer and winter clothes either beyond an extra jumper or two and a couple of coats. It doesn't get too bad here.

    Is it cute to use the word bloke? I was wondering about how to designate the males in the post as I wrote it. I've used chap to designate a fellow I know, old guy for the old chaps, blokes for others like me, and men for us all. I like English for this flexibility.
  4. prendrelemick's Avatar
    You've done it again Paul, turned your gaze onto a piece of ordinary life, and made it fascinating and deep and true and funny.
  5. JuniperWoolf's Avatar
    I used to donate chothes to the salvation army as I was growing (well, because I was growing), but I haven't tossed or donated any chothes since I was seventeen. First of all because I don't buy or wear out clothes often, and secondly because when I do wear something out, I'm too heartbroken to throw it away. I spilled some whitish nailpolish on my favorite black jeans in 2006 and I still have them in my closet .

    I've never gotten rid of anything that still fits me. I have no idea why women give away so many clothes. They must buy things that they don't like fairly often.
    Updated 05-01-2011 at 02:40 AM by JuniperWoolf
  6. OrphanPip's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by JuniperWoolf
    I used to donate chothes to the salvation army as I was growing (well, because I was growing), but I haven't tossed or donated any chothes since I was seventeen. First of all because I don't buy or wear out clothes often, and secondly because when I do wear something out, I'm too heartbroken to throw it away. I spilled some whitish nailpolish on my favorite black jeans in 2006 and I still have them in my closet .

    I've never gotten rid of anything that still fits me. I have no idea why women give away so many clothes. They must buy things that they don't like fairly often.
    This may seem shocking coming from a gay man, but I'm the same. I have nothing to give because frankly I wear my clothes until they're falling to pieces. I literally own all of 3 pairs of pants and maybe a dozen or so shirts and a few hoodies. I buy clothes when something rips and I notice that I no longer have enough clothes to make it through a week without doing laundry.
  7. Buh4Bee's Avatar
    My husband doesn't throw out anything either and has a pretty poor sense of fashion, unless he is shopping with a woman (me, his sister or his mother).
  8. pussnboots's Avatar
    Jersea: my husband doesn't throw out or give away clothes or anything for that matter either!!!

    I on the other hand will donate clothing that doesn't fit anymore.
  9. Dark Muse's Avatar
    For the most part I tend to be like you. I generally will wear my clothes until they are no longer wearable, and than I will still try to wear them just a little while longer.

    But sometimes because I hate dealing with the whole hanging things up in my closet thing, (eventually I plan on abolishing the whole closet system in place of something else) I will get so frustrated trying to hang clothes back up I will just pull a bunch of stuff out of the closet to get rid of it just so it won't be in my way any longer.
  10. JuniperWoolf's Avatar
    ^I've actually figured something out that works instead of the hanging things up in the closet thing - just dump your stuff in a pile on the floor of the closet and root through it when you have to! It works, I swear.
  11. Dark Muse's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by JuniperWoolf
    ^I've actually figured something out that works instead of the hanging things up in the closet thing - just dump your stuff in a pile on the floor of the closet and root through it when you have to! It works, I swear.
    Haha that is close to my current system, which is mountain of clothes in the middle of the bedroom
  12. Paulclem's Avatar
    Thanks Mick!

    It seems to be a popular topic. Perhaps I should start a frayed thread.

    Orphan - I have more clothes than ever now, but they are still worn on the same principle. They are lasting a bit longer.

    Thanks for your comments.
  13. Paulclem's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Dark Muse
    For the most part I tend to be like you. I generally will wear my clothes until they are no longer wearable, and than I will still try to wear them just a little while longer.

    But sometimes because I hate dealing with the whole hanging things up in my closet thing, (eventually I plan on abolishing the whole closet system in place of something else) I will get so frustrated trying to hang clothes back up I will just pull a bunch of stuff out of the closet to get rid of it just so it won't be in my way any longer.
    I remember reading about your closet rant - was it last year? I just don't like having to search through a pile - especially before work - in winter - in the dark - ending up with things on inside out and odd socks.
  14. Dark Muse's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Paulclem
    I remember reading about your closet rant - was it last year? I just don't like having to search through a pile - especially before work - in winter - in the dark - ending up with things on inside out and odd socks.
    Yeah I think it was last year. Eventually I plan on just having a system of shelves within my closet, and only having a small hanging space for certain things.
  15. The Comedian's Avatar
    Enjoyed this post -- to address some of your questions/points. I do sometimes shop at Goodwill or second hand stores for clothes. It's hard to find the right thing there. But, parents, those stores are goldmines for kids' clothes. They're usually in great shape because the kids just outgrow them so fast. And they're dirt cheap.

    As for my own donations, I've donated several button-up shirts and such. . . . my work (professor-type) clothes sometimes just get old without being "unwearable" -- and sometimes I donate tee shirts that I've won or received from participating such-and-such event or fundraiser.
  16. Paulclem's Avatar
    Thanks Comedian. I take our books back to the charity shops/ Goodwill stores, as my clothes are unfit when I've done with them.

    You're right about the kid's clothes. We've had lots in the past, and they're usually in good condition because the kids grow so quick.
  17. TheFifthElement's Avatar
    Interesting blog, Paul. I recently had a clear out and dontated all my old clothes that don't fit anymore and were in good enough condition to be reused. Most of them had been in the wardrobe for ages and I'd either not noticed them or they were no longer practical (for example 'going out' wear - I don't do that anymore!) or I'd not yet accepted I was never going to slim back down to fit into them. It was good to clear out.

    I wouldn't say that, despite there being a larger range of women's clothing in charity shops, that they are any more kitted out for younger women. Either it's 'out of fashion' wear, or a similar situation to the men's clothing example - some dead woman's wardrobe (they just tend to be bigger than men's!). I agree with Comedian's comments though about childrenswear. Charity shops are really good for that.

    That being said, my husband has a summer and winter wardrobe that each consist of about 5 articles of clothing and he wears them year in year out until he has to chuck them in the bin. I have slightly more range than that
  18. Paulclem's Avatar
    My wife reckons that women just have more clothes - so perhaps that's part of it. I think the blokes wearing out their gear stuff does apply in a lot of cases, as your husband shows.

    They are funny places charity shops. You see all sorts of characters in them.