Forum Drama Upadte
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, 04-30-2010 at 02:05 PM (1894 Views)
Ok I have the latest news on the whole issue of my being cut from my position as Admin at The Poetry Forum I am a member of, and it is like an Internet Soap Opera. It also turns out that I was half-right which does vindicate me, even if it still sucks that I was removed, at least now I understand what is what.
The forum is co-owned by a former couple (they are now no longer together, which is part of the problem) and so the male half sent me an IM so he could talk to me in private about the whole thing without her checking his PMs and causing trouble.
As we were talking he pretty much flat out told me that it was all her choice to remove the staff, and he had no say, and that he thinks she did it because she has something against me, and according to him she has been acting really strange lately and he doesn't know what is going on with her.
But the gist of what I was able to gather is that in spite of the fact that she has been completely inactive on the forum, and is never around, and never does anything to help run the forum, she is annoyed with the influence that I have over the forum and all that I have done to keep it running, so she just wanted to remove me because of some sort of power struggle and I guess she saw me as "competition" even though if she had ever actually been present or contacted me I would have consulted and worked with her.
But instead she says nothing and than just gets rid of me with an obviously bogus excuse that anyone could see is not true.
And well as it turned out, apparently, he is actually the one who is paying all the bills on the forum, but she makes all the decisions without even consulting with him about it.
So me being me, I did try to convince them that he should just drop her all together since he was paying for everything and they were no longer together, but he didn't have the back bone to do that.
He is one of those that just does not want any sort of conflict and just didn't want me to be mad at him.
I would be tempted to leave the forum, but for one thing my own stubborn vindictive side doesn't want to let her think she can run me off, and for another thing it is so difficult to find poetry forums online that I genuinely like. I have searched more than once for possible alternatives or "back up forums" but this one just happens to have the overall best layout and atmosphere, and I like most the other people there.
I have considered starting my own forum using one of those places that let you do it for free, because I probably could get a lot of the members from there to come over with me.
But that would take a lot of time and effort and attention.
The only thing that bothers me, is it may be only a matter of time before she comes up with a bogus reason to have me banned for from the forum.
So I might just get the contact info from the other members at least the ones I am in communication with so if I do get kicked off I can invite them to join me wherever I end up next.