Looking for quote about funerals

[Dark Muse]

There is this quote that I think I read in a book, but now I cannot recall exzactly where and cannot remember the exzact wording of it.

If anyone can help me with the correct wording of the quote an or its source.

It was about how those that go to the funneral are not always the ones who care the most, and often you will find the opposiste to be true.

[Dark Muse]

I finally realized where I read the quote. It was in a book of quotations that I have.

Here it is:

The cheif mourner does not always attend the funeral--Ralph Waldo Emerson