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peng87
09-22-2007, 08:58 PM
'Happiness in marriage is simply a question of chance,' said Charlotte Lucas. Do you agree? Why, or why not?( best if can relate with real life situition )

peng87
09-22-2007, 09:09 PM
You think status importance in marriage? Relate with real life situation if can

Virgil
09-22-2007, 10:05 PM
Marriage is a good thing. What would I do without my loving wife?

fionaqiujuan
09-22-2007, 10:36 PM
marrige is a fantasy but we all live in theworld of fantasy

Virgil
09-22-2007, 10:38 PM
marrige is a fantasy but we all live in theworld of fantasy

Well, I said a "good thing," I didn't say a perfect thing.

Bakiryu
09-22-2007, 10:39 PM
Marriage is an old-fashioned legal contract. Long ago it was used to bind two people together 'til death. But right now, it's just a meaningless thing.

fionaqiujuan
09-22-2007, 10:39 PM
not always good ,

marrige needs compromise and i hate this

Virgil
09-22-2007, 10:44 PM
not always good ,

marrige needs compromise and i hate this

Haha, yes it does. Are you married fiona? How old are you? My first year of marriage was hard. Not easy to compromise, especially when I know I'm right all the time. :lol: No, only kidding, but it does take an adjustment. I'm married now 16 years. I think everyone should have a partner to go through life with.

Riesa
09-22-2007, 10:48 PM
Marriage is constantly being redifined depending on the people inside of one. What it should be is two people coming together with resolution and acceptance, a willingness to let the other be, there is a state of "love" that inspires marriage. What matters in the end is that the "love" transcends the idea of "marriage."

fionaqiujuan
09-22-2007, 10:50 PM
no i am not married and what's more i have no boyfried
but i feel alright
by the way i guess i am a little early to thinks marrige this stuff i am a student
i thinks marrige is good ,my parents have a wonderful marrige

fionaqiujuan
09-22-2007, 11:00 PM
Haha, yes it does. Are you married fiona? How old are you? My first year of marriage was hard. Not easy to compromise, especially when I know I'm right all the time. :lol: No, only kidding, but it does take an adjustment. I'm married now 16 years. I think everyone should have a partner to go through life with.

how did u chosse your partner ? i am confused . is there any standards in chossing a partner?

Riesa
09-22-2007, 11:03 PM
Of course there are standards in choosing a partner.

Virgil
09-22-2007, 11:11 PM
how did u chosse your partner ? i am confused . is there any standards in chossing a partner?

She's probably the only person who can tolerate me. :lol:

No, I don't know. One is young, you fall in love, and one decides marriage and a family is right. Then it's up to the two to make it work. I always say that we are all different people from before every five years and it takes effort and commitment to carry on together.

fionaqiujuan
09-22-2007, 11:11 PM
Of course there are standards in choosing a partner.

what's your standards , it's still hard for me to accept this reality

people said love is pure why marrige needs standards and it makes things different

Riesa
09-22-2007, 11:20 PM
Marriage is different than love.

"Marriage" , depending on how you define marriage, and how you define love, really matter here, fiona.

My own personal standards were thus: will he be a good provider for our family? Is he capable of growing old with "me" am I capable of seeing "him" grow old, is he someone I would hold hands with when the ocean is in our sight? Does he know the meaning of effort?

fionaqiujuan
09-22-2007, 11:24 PM
i know many of my fellows who married just upon their parents' request or just because everyone else does so they just follow suit

Riesa
09-22-2007, 11:30 PM
that is a ridiculous reason to link oneself to another for LIFE, in my humble opinion, fer chrissakes. come on! May I ask you, are you feeling pressured to submit to an unwanted marriage?

fionaqiujuan
09-22-2007, 11:35 PM
Marriage is different than love.

"Marriage" , depending on how you define marriage, and how you define love, really matter here, fiona.

My own personal standards were thus: will he be a good provider for our family? Is he capable of growing old with "me" am I capable of seeing "him" grow old, is he someone I would hold hands with when the ocean is in our sight? Does he know the meaning of effort?

right ! i have no idea what love is and it takes a long time to understand this love and marrige things
i hope i will be lucky to meet a right person that i can grow old with

but now it seems imposssible coz i dont want to love

fionaqiujuan
09-22-2007, 11:39 PM
that is a ridiculous reason to link oneself to another for LIFE, in my humble opinion, fer chrissakes. come on! May I ask you, are you feeling pressured to submit to an unwanted marriage?

no i am not forced to marry but i think i am forced to love to some extend

Riesa
09-22-2007, 11:42 PM
at least there is that. forced to love...huh. contradictory. love is never a choice, or a pressure.

peng87
09-23-2007, 12:25 AM
im not mean like that, anyway thank you all

Virgil
09-23-2007, 12:30 AM
I want an essays

You want an essay? What do you mean? You want us to do your homework? Too bad.

Bakiryu
09-23-2007, 01:14 AM
no i am not forced to marry but i think i am forced to love to some extend

It's not like somebody is going to put a gun to your neck....

LizzyBennet
09-24-2007, 08:46 AM
There is a difference between "love" and being "in love." The key, I think, is having a marriage where the feelings of being "in love" that brought you together in the first place are preserved throughout the marriage. Is it possible? I like to think so.

Granny5
09-24-2007, 09:58 AM
There is a difference between "love" and being "in love." The key, I think, is having a marriage where the feelings of being "in love" that brought you together in the first place are preserved throughout the marriage. Is it possible? I like to think so.

Of course it's possible! Poppy and I have been married over 33 years and we are more "in love" than when we first got married. It's a much deeper love that seems to grow every year. Marriage is very hard work and it's not always fun. But together we can endure anything and achieve anything. We've turn out to be a pretty good team.

LizzyBennet
10-08-2007, 07:42 PM
You are a lucky one, Granny!